Sunday, May 6, 2012

When Wedding Dresses Control Us

If you haven't already read the New York Times article by Linda Lee -Bridal Hunger Games: Losing Weight in Time for the Wedding - on how some brides are now going to the extremes to lose weight to "look good" or fit into a particular dress or size for their wedding, you have to check it out. The best story is the woman who went on a feeding tube to lose weight fast, and then had to stop because she was losing it too fast.

This behavior is insane, but you wouldn't know it by talking to these women. They see nothing wrong with picking up an eating disorder as long as there's a specific reason and time deadline for it. And who wants to deny a bride anything for "her special day"?

I just finished The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf, and even though it was published in 1991, it is sadly still very relevant to the issues facing women today.

"The politeness people extend as a matter of course to the bodies of men does not apply to those of women: Women have little physical privacy. Each change or weight fluctuation is publicly observed, judged, and discussed." (126-127)

"But if there is a most natural urge, it is to satisfy hunger. If there is a natural female shape, it is the one in which women are sexual and fertile and not always thinking about it. To maintain hunger where food is available, as Western women are doing, is to submit to a life state as unnatural as anything with which the species has come up yet. It is more bizarre than cannibalism." (200)

Enough said.

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